Is She Playing……

Sure, you have had some shaky relationship in the past, some ex-girlfriends who were a little to high maintenance, but nothing is worse than being played. If you nabbed the girl who is out out your league, but have a hunch she is lying, may be even cheating on you, take a look at the most common signs a girl is got you wrapped around her finger, all in the wrong ways.

Take note of these red flags. They might mean you are her back up plan, side guy, an entertainment toy or a short term diversion.

Always Bails on Plans — It’s infuriating. It’s rude. It’s disrespectful. If she’s super flaky and dips out on meeting plans often, drop her. “If she doesn’t honor your time or feelings or make you feel important, then you might want to ask yourself why you want to start a serious relationship with her.” If you’re not a priority in the beginning of the relationship, that sets the precedent for how things will continue.

She’s Constantly Flirting With Other Guys — “It’s as important to look at a person’s actions as it is to listen to his/her words,” If she says she’s being exclusive to you, but you catch her chatting up and meeting other guys at every available opportunity, that’s a red flag. And if she’s constantly flirting in front of you, with her ex, her school mate, her collage mate, her classes mate, guy from her residential area, her Insta friend, her FB friend, her co worker, friend of her friend, gym guy, guy from her family links, each and every guy who hit upon her or worse, your friends, that’s a sign she isn’t looking to settle down any time soon.

You’ve Never Been to Her Place — If you have been seeing a girl for over a month and you have never been to her place, meanwhile she is been to yours a dozen times, there’s a reason. “Ask yourself: ‘Is she messy? Is she hiding something?’’ There’s a good chance that “something” she’s hiding is a someone if she scrambles to come up with an excuse why you can’t come to her apartment. “The only way to know for sure is to ask. If she says no, see if she gives you a reason why.” if she has nothing to say, you might be her side guy.

She Won’t Take Any Pictures With You — There could be a number of reasons she does not want pictures of the two of you. But it all comes down to the context of the situation. If she doesn’t want a trail on her social media, it could be because she just got out of a relationship and doesn’t want people bombarding her with questions about this new guy in her life. Conversely, she might want to keep you under wraps if she’s currently in a relationship or wants to keep her options open so she’s free to date whomever she wants. “Don’t assume this, but if a number of things point to her being non-committal this could be a piece of that puzzle.”

She Won’t Let You Meet Her Friends or Family — “Some people think you should wait a while to introduce a friend to family, but if you’ve been together for a few months normally you’d expect to at least meet a few friends,” Haven’t met either? If she’s hesitant, implore. She might not know how to explain your relationship to friends and family, especially if you have not had a chat about exclusivity. Ask her to introduce you to some of her closest guy and girl friends, first. If she shoots the idea down, there’s a good chance she doesn’t see this as a long-term relationship and doesn’t want to complicate things.

You’re an Alias in Her Phone — If you happen to notice your name in her phone is something entirely different, or worse, a girl’s name that is a straight up red flag. You do not need to panic if she has a nickname or a joke from the first time you met, like Sir Sweats A Lot if you met at the gym. “But you’d think someone would only have an alias for a date if they were hiding that person from someone else,” Ask her about it. But know going in, if she’s lying about being with you, she probably won’t have a hard time lying to your face, too.

She Never Spends the Night — You have seen it half a million times in comedies. The guy has a taxi ordered for the girl before she can get all her clothes back on. If this feels like a real-life scenario for you, and she is always running for the door, there is a chance she is only in it for the physical. “Sometimes if a person is not that serious about a relationship, they don’t want to stay and cuddle after sex or spend a lot of time together, “This keeps things light.” If you want more, then a conversation needs to happen to determine if you’re on the same page.

She Never Refers to You as Her Boyfriend — “If there’s no title and you have been together for a while now, it could be because you are not exclusive or she wants to keep her options open.” If she introduces you as her “friend” after a few months and it bothers you, then it’s up to you to say something. “If you want more and she clearly doesn’t, you may choose to move on to someone who wants the same kind of relationship you do.

She’s Hot and Cold — One minute she is all in, asking you to meet and going out with her; the next, she is putting major distance between you and saying things were never serious. “Often when people are hot and cold, they’re confused and unsure what they want, so their behavior reflects this.” To make a complicated situation simple: Find someone who’s consistently into you, and happy to be all in. It is not fair for her to pull you back and forth.

She Never Talks About Your Future — You do not want your new chick of three weeks mapping out your life together, but if you have been together for close to a year and she never talks about making plans two or three months out, you may want to investigate. “Sometimes when a person you’re dating never talks about the future, it can be an indication that this is just fun, in the present, with no strings attached.” Maybe she doesn’t see you in her future or she doesn’t know what her future holds. “Either way,if you see a future and want a relationship that’s moving forward, you may need to clarify whether your visions are even in the same ballpark.