They said love should be that way — accepting the past, enjoying the present, and looking forward to the future. But when you have been replaced, it’s hard to look at love that way again. It’s like you have been tainted and until someone proves you wrong, you will never again be out there.
Being replaced is hard, but losing yourself in the process is harder. And that’s even worse than being replaced. You don’t need to change yourself for someone else’s standards. You don’t need to second-guess your worth. What’s happening right now is a process for you to be better, stronger and wiser. Embrace the season. If ever you feel like you need to change yourself, do it for you and not for anyone. As much as it’s hard to think about the future and move on, you have to. Life is not meant to be spent living backwards.
Stop looking back and stop overanalyzing things. Though we try to hold on, always remember, love doesn’t walk away, but people do and when that happens, it’s best to know and hold to the fact that life goes on even if one aspect of it has stopped. There are better plans for you, so be still and wait patiently for it.
“No one is indispensable to anyone else. You imagine you’re necessary for her or that she will be very unhappy if you leave her, but I’m sure that if you do, within three days she will have fitted another face into your role and you’ll see that no one is suffering because of your absence. You must feel free to do whatever feels best to you. Being someone’s nurse is no way to live unless you’re unable to do anything else. You have to say something on your own and you ought to be thinking, first and foremost, about that.”